Paths / Men’s groups and rites of passage
The good argument · 15 January 2027 – 17 January 2027
About staying in an argument and still being yourself — and about asking for time when your head is full.
How you get the place
You write here. Steven answers within three days. If you both say yes, you get an email with a payment link, and the place is yours once it is paid.
About the weekend
Most of us know it: in the middle of the argument your head is full, she still has room, and we disappear — into attack, into flight or into surrender. The weekend is about being able to stay standing. We begin by the fire on Friday with our own arguments, the ones we lost, and the ones we lost ourselves in.
On Saturday you get a model you can lay your last big argument into: which role did you enter by, which did you leave by, and when did it shift. On Sunday you take the tools home — a pause agreement that holds, and the words to say what you actually mean.
Fence and posts — work that needs two men lifting at the same time.
On Saturday evening we play the hard argument through on the floor. Lai holds the frame together with an actor he has worked with for many years. You choose whether you stand on the floor or watch.
When in the argument do I leave myself?
Think of the argument the two of you keep having.
The whole weekend, hour by hour →
Want to come
Your name, your email and whatever you feel like saying. Steven answers within three days.